BY KENZIE ROBERTS | WRITER
If you are in high school listen up and learn from my lessons …
There is so much more to who you are as a person than what you look like. When you die, you will be remembered by the things you did in life and how you treated people, not that one time you got a really big zit on your nose.
Speaking of which, acne is so beyond normal. Acne occurs when hair follicles are clogged with dead skin cells and oil from the skin. It can also be caused by an excess of sugar in the body and fluctuating hormones. It happens to everyone, including that girl with the annoyingly smooth face. It may not be on your face either. It can be your arms, legs, and back as well. It’s totally normal. Find a nice powerful cleanser and a soothing moisturizer to keep your skin from getting too dry.
Nothing good happens past midnight. Seriously. Go to sleep.
That one time that you were caught without any pads or tampons and bled through your pants, yeah, so not a big deal. It happens to literally everyone. It’s totally mortifying in the moment, but next week, there will be something else for everyone to focus on. Don’t let stupid people make fun of you because you have your period. Your body and every process it goes through is beautiful. Don’t let people undermine that.
*Fun Fact: Your uterus is mad influential. It can sync up with other uterus’s so your cycles will occur at the same time (this is something I still have to convince others of which speaks volumes about what they’re teaching in Health class). They can get on the same wavelength so you and your sisters, mothers, aunts, girlfriends can ride the crimson wave together.
You will survive through these next 4 years. I know this feels like forever with all the judgmental eyes and gossiping mouths. I seriously get it.
“Those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”
– Bernard M. Baruch
From junior high to my 11th grade year, I had a pixie cut. Think Shailene Woodley ‘The Fault in Our Stars’ era. I was called every name in the book. Lesbian, Butch, Man. I was asked if I wanted to be a boy now. People constantly told me I looked better with long hair and that I should grow it out; especially family members.
The comment that affected me the most was, “boys like girls with long hair”. I would get so upset and tell people (more like yell at people) that I don’t do things for boys and I don’t care what they like. I liked it and that was enough. Defend yourself but don’t drive yourself crazy. You are enough for the people that are really important.
You do not know everything. No matter how much it sucks to hear, you are still young. Find wise counsel, someone who has lived a bit of life (your friends may have good advice, but they are in the same boat as you), someone who is older. A youth pastor, a church leader, an aunt, the mom of a friend, even an older sister. Take what they say, and listen.
“Be professional, be polite, but have a plan to kill everyone you meet.”
– General James Mattis USMC
That being said, do not let yourself be silenced. I cannot stress this one enough. Your thoughts, opinions and ideas are just as important and hold value like everyone else’s. These are yours and do not need to be justified. Be respectful and do not let people interrupt or undermine you. Clearly I don’t think you should go around killing people, but you need to learn how to be strategic in the way you communicate with others.
There is so much more than romantic love. Do not take the lack of a boyfriend or girlfriend as a sign that you are a failure and unloved. The love from people in your life like parents, brothers, sisters, Grandparents, best friends is more rewarding than from your latest crush. There is so much more to love, than that which is romantic.
If your friends and/or parents are telling you that he isn’t treating you right, listen to them. You may not be able to see it, but they do. Also, if he cheats on you, do not rationalize it. Do not blame yourself and do not let him explain. There is no excuse. Drop him like it’s hot.
This one might be the most important. Stand up for other girls. We are in this together. If you hear a boy or girl talking down about a girl, stop them. Defend her. No matter how you feel about her personally. We are not supposed to be against each other. Life is not a competition between girls. It’s not one big cat fight. You are not impressing anyone by being bitchy and dissing another girl. Do not waste time tearing other girls down to build yourself up. When you call other girls names and treat them like crap, other people think they can do the same. And they will.
“The measure of any society is how it treats its women and girls.”
– Michelle Obama
You are as much as a part of this society as anyone else. Treat every girl with the respect and consideration that you want and appreciate. These are your sisters. These are the girls who will stand in solidarity with you.
These girls will be lesbians, transgender, bisexual, straight, and everything in-between. They will have big teeth, small butts, tiny waists, big hips, broad shoulders, and everything in-between. These girls will want to be a doctor, stay-at-home-mom, counselor, marine, police officer, president, singer, actress, missionary, witch, and everything in-between. These girls will be geeks, cheerleaders, choir kids, sporto’s, teachers’ pets, rebels, and everything in-between.
Stand up with them, stand up for them.